Not long before we were married Linda once asked me--
"Do you have to plan everything out?"
And I said--
"Me? I don't plan everything out.'
"Well," said Linda. "You you seem to."
Then, one weekend after we had been married for ten years, I said to Linda--
"Would you like to go for a drive in the country?"
"Oh, I'd love that," said Linda
"Where you like to go?" I asked her.
"Instead of planning ahead of time," said Linda. "Couldn't we just be spontaneous for once, just head out and see where we wind up?"
I said, "I don't need to plan everything. I can be spontaneous."
"Hummm?," said Linda.
One day, after we'd been married for twenty years, I asked Linda--
"What are you making for dinner tonight?"
"Well, we haven't even had breakfast yet, I thought I'd wait until evening to decide."
She smiled, "You always have to have everything planned out ahead of time don't you?"
"No. No, I can wait."
Last week I turned to Linda and wondered, "Is there anything special you'd like to do for our fortieth Wedding Anniversary?"
"That isn't until next May," said Linda, looking up from her laptop. "Isn't it a little early to be planning that yet?"
"Well, I was just wondering."
"No you were planning.' She laughed, "That's just you. Everything has to be planned out well ahead of time."
"Of course not. I'm very spontaneous. I certainly don't have to have everything all planned out for me."
Yesterday, after meditating, I said to Linda, "You know how I've been meditating for the last three months?"
"Yes," she said, "I do."
"And you know how thoughts distract everyone who tries to meditate?"
"Some people are distracted by worry and some by fear and some by anger...."
"Well, those thoughts don't distract me. I get distracted by thinking things like, 'I have to remember to buy light bulbs next time I'm at the store.' or 'I need to decide what to write about next time I blog.' or 'I better remember to bring out the snow shovels from the shed before it starts to snow.'"
"Do you see what I'm doing."
"Planning. My mind is busy planning things. Who would ever have thought someone as spontaneous as I am would have a brain that was busy planning things all the time? It's amazing what you learn about yourself when you meditate."
Linda smiled warmly, "It certainly is," she agreed
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