Friday, June 5, 2009

Linda's Mother Passed Away Last Night



Peacefully in her sleep at 90 years of age, Stuart Crawford passed away at 7 pm on Thursday June 4th after a brief illness.

"Stuart" was Linda's mother's only given name, the fifth woman in five generations to be called Stuart. As you might expect it led to many, sometimes, humorous confusions over her life time. Pointedly, however, she did not name either of her own two daughters "Stuart".

A soldier, a baker, a glass engraver; secretary to the Executive Chief of the Royal York Hotel, Payroll Manager at Canada Trust; artist; mother of Margaret, Don, Linda and Steve, world traveler; she out lived two husbands and had a very full and loving life.

Stuart had been rushed to the Emergency department at Centenary Hospital last week with acute kidney failure. Linda and I spent much of the three days she was in the hospital fighting to insure she got the attention she required among the welter of automobile accident, industrial accident, young heart attack victims and the victims of physical abuse. But there was little the hospital could do for her beyond hydrating her and providing what little passes for physical comfort in a busy emergency ward.

She was returned to her nursing home last Friday where she was visited by all the members of her family, which cheered her greatly. Linda and I, along with my brother Keith and his wife, had visited her yesterday afternoon and she seemed very peaceful. The nurses commented that she was doing well and any crisis would be days away and, being the fighter she was, that she could even rally.

Sadly this was not to be the case.

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Linda and I are keeping my appointment with two of my oncologists at Princess Margaret Hospital today because the road getting to this point has been too arduous, and my cancer too aggressive, for us to delay the meeting. I will be getting full details of my diagnosis and a treatment schedule.

My daughter Kathy offered to come with me in Linda's place, but Linda is anxious to hear what the oncologists have to say directly.

I will publish my Friday Shootout tomorrow.

48 comments:

Linda said...

Miss you mom! Love you. xoxoxoxoxox
Thank you Barry.

Anvilcloud said...

A life well lived, it seems.

monika said...

I am sorry for your loss.
The good thing is that your family had visited her few days ago, I think she is now better and she will always be with you in other ways!

Natalie said...

Linda, I know you will always miss your mum whether she was 90 or 19. Sending love to you all.
Barry, I hope all went well.I have a book I need to send you, can you email me your address please.xx♥

sweetmango said...

She has a beautiful smile .... she is a lovely woman and i can only imagine how much she will be missed by your family.
Love to you both & thinking of you.

Sarah Lulu said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sounds like a wonderful woman.

Sending much love and light and prayers for your own healing.

Sarah Lulu

Queenmothermamaw said...

So sorry for your loss. Mom's are hard to loss, just like anyone you love. Prayers for the family at this end. Blessings Good luck on MD visit.
QMM

Ruth said...

Lovely Stuart, God speed.

I love her name.

Tigerlea said...

My condolences to you both. She seemed like a wonderful woman, and I'm sure she will be watching from above and guiding you through your current struggles.

Good luck, and best wishes.
~FL

Butler and Bagman said...

God bless all of you, best for today, I will treat any day that you post your photoshoot as an honorary Friday.

Meghann said...

I'm very sorry Barry. She had a great, full life and is in a place where there is no pain. I send you hugs and prayers in your time of loss. You're on my prayer list: http://littlestudio.ca/Prayer%20List.html
have a good weekend, I pray your treatment will go well :)
Meg

GingerV said...

Barry and Linda my heart is there with you.

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff... said...

What a wonderful full life she led!! We are all thinking about you and Linda during this time of your loss of her precious mother.
God bless you both and.........

Steady On
Reggie Girl

Rick Rosenshein said...

Barry & Linda,
My condolances to both of you and the rest of your family. Take care. Rick

Lauren said...

I am sorry to hear about your family's loss. Stuart sounds like she lived a very wonderful and full life, and that you all must miss her very much :-/. Best to you and yours during this time.

Kerry said...

I am sorry to hear of Stuart's passing, but glad of the wonderful memories that you have of her. God bless.

The Bug said...

Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let light perpetual shine upon her.

Good luck today!

Doreen said...

sorry to hear of your loss Linda and Barry. she did live a long and wonderful life.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I'm sorry for your loss. I love her name - how very unique and lovely.

Si's blog said...

Glad you are strong.

All the thoughts and comments above in spades.

Kathryn Magendie said...

She sounds like an incredible woman....I find myself thinking "I wish I had known her...!"

I see below that you have 2 cancers but it is better that it is a different form, so for that, I am glad--relatively/situationally speaking as is understood of course!

I think you and and of Linda and of Lindsey daily....

RileyScott said...

I'm sorry for your loss Barry and especially Linda.

I'll keep you in my thoughts today.

I have always held stock in the phrase "You can tell alot about a person's life, from those that they leave behind." I don't even know if that's an actual saying, but hearing you speak of your mother-in-law, I know that the world is slightly lessened to have lost her.

Sandra Leigh said...

Stuart sounds like a wonderful role model. My condolences to you and Linda, and to the whole family.

Daria said...

Sorry for your loss ... sounds like an amazing woman.

Natalie said...

I am so sorry for your loss. All your family and friends will be in our prayers.

stregata said...

So sorry to hear of your loss, and yet I am glad she did not need to go through a prolonged illness. What better way to leave than peacefully during sleep. Still, mom's are so hard to loose - I know.
Sending love and hugs,
Renate

leilani said...

sending wishes for peace and comfort. Much aloha Leilani

J-Diggety said...

My condolences for your loss. She sounds like she was an energetic, dynamic lady... the kind of woman I hope to be! :)

Pavitra .... said...

Barry and Linda,
I'm really sorry for your loss. My condolences to both of you and your family.
Take care.

Michelle said...

I'm sorry to hear that Barry and Linda. Wishing you strength and love always xxx

jeannette stgermain said...

Sorry for your loss. You have a great memory of her it seems, in writing and honoring her this post.

Wendy said...

Sorry for your loss, both of you.

willow said...

She was so lucky to have such a strong and beautiful name passed down to her through the generations. I love that.

My thoughts are with you and Linda today, Barry.

~x~

bARE-eYED sUN said...

dear Linda and Barry,

i want to express my condolence over the loss of Stuart.

i realize that there's not much that i can offer in the way
of easing your pain, but even though we only share
a blog-space connection, i am genuinely saddened by your loss.

i will keep you both in my thoughts.

..
.
ed rosado

Chele said...

So sorry for your loss. Wow, what a life she has had. I'm sure she had many wonderful stories to share.

I'm glad you were able to spend time with her yesterday and that she was at peace.

Hugs to you both.

Kim said...

It sounds like she loved much and was loved fully.

Peace to you and your family.

Jen said...

So sorry to hear about your loss. All my very best,

Jen

Zaroga said...

I am sorry for your loss. I will put you in my prayers.

nollyposh said...

i'm so sorry to hear that Barry~ Love to you both xox

Neil Bytes said...

Sorry for your loss.

She seemed to have lived life to the fullest.

A Scattering said...

What an interesting life she led and how blessed she was that you were good advocates for her. Thinking of you both and your loss.

sciencegirl said...

What a wonderful life Stuart had. She'll stay with you always.
All my best wishes to you and Linda, and a prayer of courage to help you through these trying times.
-Nancy

gigi said...

Gosh, Barry, when it rains it pours. So sorry for yours and Linda's great loss. I know yall will miss her dearly.

Hope all your news is good today. Having a plan and a program to follow will be a blessing. Can't believe you have two cancers.
Praying God's greatest blessings on you all.

Sara Williams said...

Sorry for your loss. Stuart would not have wanted you to delay treatment, its important for Linda that you grasp life. Thinking of you Barry, take heart, lots of people are routing for you x

GigiSxm said...

My condolences to Linda, yourself and the entire family. May God be with in this time of grief. May her soul rest in peace

Chef E said...

I am sorry for both of your loss...I am glad you have each other to lean on in these times, as difficult as it is...I am heading down to Texas this week to spend time with my 'by marriage' sister whos father just passed, mine have been gone six years, so I know it won't be an easy visit...your two are on my mind always...

Barbara's Spot on the Blog said...

My condolences on losing your mother-in-law. What a great long life she had to reach 90. I know you will celebrate her life even though you will miss her.

Sydney said...

My sincere condolences Barry to you and Linda. I am so sorry that you have to go through anything more, let alone something as monumental as this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.